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FROM AUTHOR EDIT 1: Thank you very much guys for awesome guidance. I also have one more doubt. How should I talk to my manager about it? My manager put some se

by buzzwr 7y ago

FROM AUTHOR EDIT 1: Thank you very much guys for awesome guidance. I also have one more doubt. How should I talk to my manager about it? My manager put some serious efforts(time and company's money) to get me there. I am feeling bad about my manager. I don't want to disturb my relations with my manager.

gshdg 7y ago
It depends a lot on what your relationship with your manager is. A good manager will support you and if you explain your reasons for leaving will either try to find a way to fix problems and provide you with those same upsides where you are; or if that's not possible (for instance, your reason is that you want "Facebook" on your resume), will be supportive and maintain the relationship because there's always the possibility your paths will cross again in the future. A mediocre or bad manager can be mediocre or bad in any number of ways, and any advice would be highly situational and specific. The only general piece of advice I can offer is to express appreciation for the opportunities you've been given and to make it clear that your reason for leaving is not something you blame your manager for.
codingdave 7y ago
It is your managers job to build their team, so the time and money put in to bring you on board is their problem, not yours. Maybe your departure will be a lesson learned for your manager. And maybe they will try to avoid hiring short-timers in the future. So you helped them learn a lesson, and contributed for 6 months. And they paid you for your time. That is a fair business transaction. Also, 5 years from now, if you do go on to Facebook and higher degrees, and other things... you may barely remember the names of the people from this job. Your current situation has a far larger place in your mind than it will in the bigger picture of your career and your life, once you have more experience under your belt. I had this discussion, frankly, with my manager the last time I left a job. It was a startup, with struggles, but a promising future. It was a good place. But I didn't want to follow them to an office farther from my home. So I told him that while it seemed like leaving would be a big thing, that in reality, 6 months later, it would make no difference to them or me. And that was true - they hired other devs, I got a different job, everyone is doing fine. In short, you just need to make this decision for yourself.
alexzoltano 7y ago
People hate surprises. Talk with your manager to give them a heads up before you accept the new offer and officially resign. Having an open conversation with your manager will help build or preserve the trust in the relationship in part because you are including them in the decision that you'll be making. Your manager cares a lot about you and your career. They will probably be supportive and it gives them an opportunity to provide feedback, will give you opportunity to share your appreciation too.
kangnkodos 7y ago
No matter how you word it, your manager will be justifiably upset. There's really nothing you can do, except explain why this next move is better for you personally, and keep it to a minimum. You should expect this move may damage your relationship with your manager permanently, but that's life in the big city. You have to do what's right for you, not what's best for your manager.

by buzzwr 7y ago

gshdg 7y ago

It depends a lot on what your relationship with your manager is. A good manager will support you and if you explain your reasons for leaving will either try to find a way to fix problems and provide you with those same upsides where you are; or if that's not possible (for instance, your reason is that you want "Facebook" on your resume), will be supportive and maintain the relationship because there's always the possibility your paths will cross again in the future. A mediocre or bad manager can be mediocre or bad in any number of ways, and any advice would be highly situational and specific. The only general piece of advice I can offer is to express appreciation for the opportunities you've been given and to make it clear that your reason for leaving is not something you blame your manager for.

codingdave 7y ago

It is your managers job to build their team, so the time and money put in to bring you on board is their problem, not yours. Maybe your departure will be a lesson learned for your manager. And maybe they will try to avoid hiring short-timers in the future. So you helped them learn a lesson, and contributed for 6 months. And they paid you for your time. That is a fair business transaction. Also, 5 years from now, if you do go on to Facebook and higher degrees, and other things... you may barely remember the names of the people from this job. Your current situation has a far larger place in your mind than it will in the bigger picture of your career and your life, once you have more experience under your belt. I had this discussion, frankly, with my manager the last time I left a job. It was a startup, with struggles, but a promising future. It was a good place. But I didn't want to follow them to an office farther from my home. So I told him that while it seemed like leaving would be a big thing, that in reality, 6 months later, it would make no difference to them or me. And that was true - they hired other devs, I got a different job, everyone is doing fine. In short, you just need to make this decision for yourself.

alexzoltano 7y ago

People hate surprises. Talk with your manager to give them a heads up before you accept the new offer and officially resign. Having an open conversation with your manager will help build or preserve the trust in the relationship in part because you are including them in the decision that you'll be making. Your manager cares a lot about you and your career. They will probably be supportive and it gives them an opportunity to provide feedback, will give you opportunity to share your appreciation too.

kangnkodos 7y ago

No matter how you word it, your manager will be justifiably upset. There's really nothing you can do, except explain why this next move is better for you personally, and keep it to a minimum. You should expect this move may damage your relationship with your manager permanently, but that's life in the big city. You have to do what's right for you, not what's best for your manager.