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> > Just a consideration: for many centuries (at least in Germany), arranged marriages were quite a success story, while love marriage are a quite modern invent
by wolfgke 7y ago
> > Just a consideration: for many centuries (at least in Germany), arranged marriages were quite a success story, while love marriage are a quite modern invention.
> There are cultures and countries for which this is true but Germany is not one of them.
My grandmother (from Germany) told me how in former generations, it was not uncommon for parents to look out for marriage partners for their children. Formally, this is indeed not an arranged marriage, but de-facto, it mostly is/was.
EDIT: Or even more indirectly, parents send/sent their children to social occasions where the child is very likely to meet the kind of marriage partners that the parents desire. To me, this still has a strong "smell" of (partly-)arranged marriage.
- iguy 7y agoThere are exceptions, and stories people tell, but GP is correct about the broad picture (in my understanding of the data). The west was unusual, and we have tended to misunderstand its past by looking at the more recent past of other societies. > parents send/sent their children to social occasions Absolutely people try to position their kids into the best social class they can. And still do, this is 90% of what parents house-shopping for "good schools" are doing, not to mention the great college admissions game. But this is not the same thing as an arranged marriage culture.