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The difficulty people have with treating the source of a feeling is probably because a lot of the time it's difficult to identify the source. I think many peopl

by jmts 7y ago

The difficulty people have with treating the source of a feeling is probably because a lot of the time it's difficult to identify the source. I think many people often go with what their body tells them about what might resolve a symptom that they're feeling in the short term (get drunk and party), but in the long run the root cause may be something entirely different (develop relationships that are more intellectually stimulating). In addition to positives acting in a way that can prolong a mental illness, often they can also deepen it as well. Generally you're aware of what you could be, or should be, or want to be, but can't be and don't understand why. This in itself can trigger negative thoughts and reinforce the cycle.

DoreenMichele 7y ago
Oh, I spent about 3.5 in therapy. It's somewhat second nature at this point for me to wonder at root causes in myself. But I feel like I failed to communicate something. Let me give a few examples from actual conversations I've had: Someone was talking about having recently self harmed again after x amount of time refraining. They were saying they felt so ashamed and like such a failure, that refraining for so long had been a big accomplishment. I told them it was still a big accomplishment. That fact remained true and was in no way diminished by their recent self harm. Someone who is incredibly sweet and interesting and knowledgeable has a lot of baggage. When their baggage trips them up, they don't know how to stop and the kind, supportive replies they get keep the drama rolling. It is complicated by an "either/or" framing of certain things. A couple of times, I've managed to say a thing that largely stopped the drama. They then took a break and did me time activities. When they "came back," they were much more able to focus on things other than their own baggage and emotional drama. In short, I've put down a lot of baggage. I sometimes can help other people put down the baggage. That's my focus. If they drop the baggage, their emotional landscape changes. Because feelings come from somewhere.

by jmts 7y ago

DoreenMichele 7y ago

Oh, I spent about 3.5 in therapy. It's somewhat second nature at this point for me to wonder at root causes in myself. But I feel like I failed to communicate something. Let me give a few examples from actual conversations I've had: Someone was talking about having recently self harmed again after x amount of time refraining. They were saying they felt so ashamed and like such a failure, that refraining for so long had been a big accomplishment. I told them it was still a big accomplishment. That fact remained true and was in no way diminished by their recent self harm. Someone who is incredibly sweet and interesting and knowledgeable has a lot of baggage. When their baggage trips them up, they don't know how to stop and the kind, supportive replies they get keep the drama rolling. It is complicated by an "either/or" framing of certain things. A couple of times, I've managed to say a thing that largely stopped the drama. They then took a break and did me time activities. When they "came back," they were much more able to focus on things other than their own baggage and emotional drama. In short, I've put down a lot of baggage. I sometimes can help other people put down the baggage. That's my focus. If they drop the baggage, their emotional landscape changes. Because feelings come from somewhere.