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> The people I worked with were extremely closed minded. Most of them with many years of experience working in a corporation, so even more closed minded, only c
by overgard 7y ago
> The people I worked with were extremely closed minded. Most of them with many years of experience working in a corporation, so even more closed minded, only caring about their manager’s approval. I was devastated. My team members were the most fake people I have met still to this day. I cannot even explain how terrible it was for me to have to help them, show interest and pretend that I support what they’re doing. You might be thinking — why weren’t you honest with them instead? I tried, but no one cared and my role was minimised, so at the end I was only doing a 1 Excel file.
In my experience when someone says everyone else is the problem, it’s more likely they’re the problem but they lack the introspection to realise it. I mean really which seems more likely, that everyone else was awful, or that something she was doing rubbed people the wrong way? It sounds like Microsoft was just a backdrop to a turbulent few years.
Also after cheating on her boyfriend and spending large periods of time faking doing work (which I’m guessing contributed to her firing) her takeaway at the end is.. to focus more on herself and blame Microsoft and her former coworkers for her mistakes? How is that not just narcissism? I mean self care is important, but maybe her takeaway should be to act with integrity..
- codetrotter 7y agoI don’t know her, and I don’t anyone else from the story, but this part > the most fake people I have met still to this day followed immediately by > I cannot even explain how terrible it was for me to have to help them, show interest and pretend that I support what they’re doing Taken out of context at least, there is exactly one person that seems exceptionally more fake than anyone else... I dunno, maybe I have just been lucky to have sufficiently many sincere people around me in my life, but if I perceive someone as being insincere I will avoid those people — not stay around them and pretend that I like them. Of course, if you perceive everyone at a place to be fake then you can’t really avoid them. I don’t know what to do in that situation really. But I agree that some introspection would probably be in order. Though personally I have in the past had the opposite problem — being overly harsh on myself and critical of myself.
- worik 7y agoYuk. What a horrid pair of comments!
- prevedmedved 7y agoI know, right? Holding women accountable for their actions is, like, super misogynist. Everybody knows it's some man's fault!
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- thanatropism 7y agoI don’t know which post by “The Last Psychiatrist” I want to recommend, maybe you need to read his entire blog.
- overgard 7y agoI love Last Psychiatrist, I pretty much have :-)
- bitL 7y agoI'll just throw this one in: "The object of life is not to be on the side of the majority, but to escape finding oneself in the ranks of the insane." - Marcus Aurelius It seems like this was known in antiquity already.
- RangerScience 7y ago> more likely Both? A coworker at a former job comes to mind. He kept pointing out a problem that everyone else was ignoring, and they kept ignoring it. He gradually got minimized until he left on his own, and the problem remained. He definitely rubbed people the wrong way. The problem definitely existed.
- sumedh 7y agoWhat kind of problem was it, did he/she try to fix it on their own, did others acknowledge that was a problem and needed to be fixed?
- RangerScience 7y agoI think it was "to have or not have CI systems"; yes; no. It's the sort of thing you can "fix" on your own, but if you don't get any buy-in from everyone else, you're kinda SOL.
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