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California's (or san Francisco's... Not sure) six weeks of paid paternity leave made this dad want more kids. Babies are the best! Maybe if they gave more time

California's (or san Francisco's... Not sure) six weeks of paid paternity leave made this dad want more kids. Babies are the best! Maybe if they gave more time off they'd want more children

magduf 7y ago
After seeing other peoples' ADHD kids and what misery it is to try to parent them, I don't have much desire to have any kids.
- Domenic_S 7y ago
  You do you, I came to the conclusion a long time ago that anyone who says "I don't want kids" should be left alone on the matter. On the flip side I think a lot of parents do this to themselves. Kids are not born knowing how to be polite, respectful, play well with others, etc, it has to be trained. It is an exhausting thing to train but it pays dividends. Ironically the less effort you spend on this the worse your kids get, making it even more of a misery to parent them. Of course there are exceptions (I don't know if you were being serious/clinical with ADHD but that's one of them)
  - magduf 7y ago
    I don't know about a clinical diagnosis of ADHD, but in my observation, American kids certainly act this way, and have terrible behavior in general. You're right, this stuff has to be trained, but American parents have been failing badly at this for a while now. I was recently in Japan on vacation, and by contrast, all the children there were extremely-well behaved. It made me think I might actually like to have a kid even, something I never feel when I'm in the US because kids (and adults too) are so poorly behaved.
- tathougies 7y ago
  Meh. We only find children have attention issues because we have outsized expectations of them. My mother was a public school teacher and the truth is most teachers were simply too out of shape to keep up with the kids and so labeled them ADD. For the most part, if you acknowledge children are children, they seem a lot easier. But I'm not going to try to convince you. The more people who dont want kids the more I can have!
  - magduf 7y ago
    Nothing's preventing you from having all the kids you want.

California's (or san Francisco's... Not sure) six weeks of paid paternity leave made this dad want more kids. Babies are the best! Maybe if they gave more time off they'd want more children

magduf 7y ago

After seeing other peoples' ADHD kids and what misery it is to try to parent them, I don't have much desire to have any kids.

Domenic_S 7y ago
You do you, I came to the conclusion a long time ago that anyone who says "I don't want kids" should be left alone on the matter. On the flip side I think a lot of parents do this to themselves. Kids are not born knowing how to be polite, respectful, play well with others, etc, it has to be trained. It is an exhausting thing to train but it pays dividends. Ironically the less effort you spend on this the worse your kids get, making it even more of a misery to parent them. Of course there are exceptions (I don't know if you were being serious/clinical with ADHD but that's one of them)
- magduf 7y ago
  I don't know about a clinical diagnosis of ADHD, but in my observation, American kids certainly act this way, and have terrible behavior in general. You're right, this stuff has to be trained, but American parents have been failing badly at this for a while now. I was recently in Japan on vacation, and by contrast, all the children there were extremely-well behaved. It made me think I might actually like to have a kid even, something I never feel when I'm in the US because kids (and adults too) are so poorly behaved.
tathougies 7y ago
Meh. We only find children have attention issues because we have outsized expectations of them. My mother was a public school teacher and the truth is most teachers were simply too out of shape to keep up with the kids and so labeled them ADD. For the most part, if you acknowledge children are children, they seem a lot easier. But I'm not going to try to convince you. The more people who dont want kids the more I can have!
- magduf 7y ago
  Nothing's preventing you from having all the kids you want.