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Related, we extended an offer out to a younger lady who did well on our interviews; pretty sure this was going to be her first job outside of school. She declin
by sethammons 8y ago
Related, we extended an offer out to a younger lady who did well on our interviews; pretty sure this was going to be her first job outside of school. She declined our competitive offer and went with Uber, right smack dab in the middle of the media frenzy on what was happening at Uber. I heard that she really liked us but wanted the bigger name on her resume.
- superwayne 8y agoJust out of curiosity, why did you go with "lady" and not with "woman"?
- OJFord 8y agoJust out of curiosity, what do you think is wrong?
- thinkingemote 8y agoSpeculation as the comparison was between a small company and Uber is that because Uber wouldn't use that word? and yet Uber has a worse reputation
- salex89 8y agoTo fire up your curiosity a bit, although I'm not the one you are asking. In my native language we have different terms for: - (Very) young woman as in child - up to around college age - Woman up to her, let's say thirties or mid-thirties (it's a matter of personal reference, I guess). English stil has only "girl". - After that we generally use "woman" as in more mature female. Hard to mess up, the context is rather clear. - Then comes miss/misses which can basically overlap with some of the previous, but you kinda eyeball it - Lady is more of a descriptive term for someone's style and classy behaviour, and can refer to any age, even to a little girl. If you want to be official, than we would probably use Ms/Mrs, rarely lady. Sometimes lady can be pejorative. It's complicated to call (invoke) somebody as "lady" (hey lady). "Ladies and gentlemen" is a rare direct usage. So... When using English without switching context properly, I find myself confused what to use because I miss some tools I'm used to in my language. I actually find "lady" to be handy in that manner, because it kinda replaces multiple terms I'm used to :-).
- sethammons 8y agoMaybe that is why I got downvoted. I would not have said "a man I interviewed." I would have said "a guy I interviewed" or "a candidate I interviewed." I associate the word guy and lady as the same thing, just gendered. I went with the feminine word because it is relevant to the thread - she chose to go into a known toxic environment for woman to, presumably, get a name on her resume. And after a quick thread elsewhere here, I've now learned that some folks don't like the word lady. :themoreyouknow:
- JonGarfield 8y agoCan't speak for anyone else, but lady ≠ guy: boy/girl guy/gal gentleman/lady man/woman male/female When people mix pairs, it is most often to single out the woman. One of the most egregious is guy/girl. The use of "lady" is old-fashioned, and raises a red flag about what other "old-fashioned" ideas the speaker might hold.
- satokema 8y agoNo, you just purport "lady" to be old-fashioned because it furthers a political point. Keep your paws off my shared language. I want to be able to refer to people without googling for the polite terminology du jour, since even "woman" is offensive in some circles.
- JonGarfield 8y agoNo, I'm saying it has a connotation. In my experience, it is exclusively used by men who DO, demonstrably, have a certain view towards women. I do not like being referred to that way. It has ALWAYS come with other baggage that works its way into the workplace, however politely it is used. The red flag is based on lived experience, not an abstraction.
- bwb 8y agoAh that makes me sad, I grew up in the south with hippie parents and they all used lady normally. I wonder if that is a Southern thing they adopted or what?
- JungleGymSam 8y agoWhy is this even a question?
- julius_set 8y agoJust out of curiosity when did we start policing words?
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- dangerface 8y agoIt seems Lady is seen as old fashioned in America while the rest of the english speaking world does not.