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Sure. But the lead in to that makes it pretty clear: > But that still does not seem to explain the persistence of America’s sex recession, or its most extreme
by mirimir 8y ago
Sure. But the lead in to that makes it pretty clear:
> But that still does not seem to explain the persistence of America’s sex recession, or its most extreme feature: how concentrated it is among men. Since 2008 there has been almost a threefold rise in the share of men under the age of 30 who claim to be having no sex. At the same time, the portion of sexless women increased by only 8%. A range of possible explanations for the disparity has been suggested, and the students seemed to corroborate several of them. Many felt men’s social skills had been especially eroded by over-reliance on technology. Overindulgence in porn meanwhile offered them an escape route from reality. Yet the most compelling answer, because it contains elements of all that and more, may be signalled by young people’s increasing reluctance to date.
> This is often blamed on the “hook-up culture” of college campuses. Yet casual sex and dating coexisted in the 1990s. It is also easy to exaggerate—now as then—how many people are hooking up. Half the Northwestern students said they rarely or never did. Yet they also rattled off reasons not to date which, among the men, who would traditionally take the lead in such encounters, included uncertainty about how they were even managed. Many considered the prospect of chatting someone up in a bar not merely daunting but possibly offensive. “Revealing that your intention in talking to someone is sexual? That’s hairy,” shuddered one man.
I didn't get comfortable "chatting someone up in a bar" until my mid 30s. After a few ~long-term relationships, and a failed marriage. And this was during the 60s-80s.
I can't imagine what it's like now.
- cybersnowflake 8y agoIts not rocket science. All but the ugliest women can get sex/relationships more easily than all but perhaps the most attractive men. You have the top 90% of women competing for the top 10% (guessimate but its around there) of men while the other men are left completely in the dust.
- mirimir 8y agoThat doesn't seem plausible. How can the "top 10%" of men be having sex with anywhere near the " top 90% of women"? That'd be a lot of sex for those men. And wouldn't they be kept busy enough by the top 20%-40% of women? I do suspect that social media is a huge part of it. With such a focus on superficial attractiveness. And the potential for mobbing. There was lots more slack, back in the day.
- cybersnowflake 8y agoI said competing not necessarily having sex. Also the numbers are for illustrative purposes, its impossible to know the precise figure but the paradigm itself is very real. Women have a far easier time having relationships with men and women. Men tend to form the bulk of the outcasts of society mostly because of generally higher social intelligence in women but recent economic and ideological trends definitely have worsened things.