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Or just use dating apps. The intent is established up front and because of that there is less emphasis on threading social norms.

barry-cotter 7y ago
Dating apps are soul crushing seas of rejection, like dating in general, but worse because you feel like you’re trying when you’re playing with your phone. Given the choice between a mixed sex social activity once a month and dating apps you’re probably better off with the first.
- geoka9 7y ago
  > like dating in general, but worse In my opinion, yes and no. With dating apps it's only as soul crushing as you let it be. If the person online is not interested, s/he just ignores your message. A rejection in real life, on the other hand, can really sting. Multiple rejections can turn you off trying for good. And they are likely to happen, before you meet someone with whom you hit it off. I highly recommend trying dating apps, especially if you're not a social butterfly. Just don't take it personally when you get no reply. And be patient, it'll probably take a while to find a good match (just like it would IRL).
  - barry-cotter 7y ago
    > With dating apps it's only as soul crushing as you let it be. This is how people who go on lots of dates treat dating in general. If you don’t treat a momentary social action as a big deal most people won’t either. Propose a date or make romantic interest clear. Be declined. Move on. “He/She/It doesn’t like me? Oh well.”
Mirioron 7y ago
It's pretty discussing to look at dating app data about how women rate 80% of men as below average in attractiveness.[0] Men also get far fewer responses on dating apps. [0] https://techcrunch.com/2009/11/18/okcupid-inbox-attractive/ https://techcrunch.com/2009/11/18/okcupid-inbox-attractive/
masonic 7y ago
Have you bothered to look at the access privileges any given dating app must be granted? Precise location, all contacts, calendar, etc. etc. Use websites, not apps.

barry-cotter 7y ago

Dating apps are soul crushing seas of rejection, like dating in general, but worse because you feel like you’re trying when you’re playing with your phone. Given the choice between a mixed sex social activity once a month and dating apps you’re probably better off with the first.

geoka9 7y ago
> like dating in general, but worse In my opinion, yes and no. With dating apps it's only as soul crushing as you let it be. If the person online is not interested, s/he just ignores your message. A rejection in real life, on the other hand, can really sting. Multiple rejections can turn you off trying for good. And they are likely to happen, before you meet someone with whom you hit it off. I highly recommend trying dating apps, especially if you're not a social butterfly. Just don't take it personally when you get no reply. And be patient, it'll probably take a while to find a good match (just like it would IRL).
- barry-cotter 7y ago
  > With dating apps it's only as soul crushing as you let it be. This is how people who go on lots of dates treat dating in general. If you don’t treat a momentary social action as a big deal most people won’t either. Propose a date or make romantic interest clear. Be declined. Move on. “He/She/It doesn’t like me? Oh well.”

Mirioron 7y ago

It's pretty discussing to look at dating app data about how women rate 80% of men as below average in attractiveness.[0] Men also get far fewer responses on dating apps. [0] https://techcrunch.com/2009/11/18/okcupid-inbox-attractive/ https://techcrunch.com/2009/11/18/okcupid-inbox-attractive/

masonic 7y ago

Have you bothered to look at the access privileges any given dating app must be granted? Precise location, all contacts, calendar, etc. etc. Use websites, not apps.