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It's not about attractiveness. If a colleague “asks me out” in a work setting unsolicited I'm not more comfortable if they're “attractive”. This sounds like a
by TazeTSchnitzel 8y ago
It's not about attractiveness. If a colleague “asks me out” in a work setting unsolicited I'm not more comfortable if they're “attractive”.
This sounds like a scare-story men who feel inadequate like to tell themselves.
- barry-cotter 8y agoIf that’s true I’m happy for you. I suggest observing the behaviour of other women to see how they react to similar behaviour from men of different levels of attractiveness. Whether it’s height, fat or just facial symmetry more attractive people, men and women, get away with more in life and go further, faster. If I said the average man would sooner marry a penniless single mother of three who looked like a super model to an ugly woman with a nice personality would you find it similarly unbelievable?
- TazeTSchnitzel 8y agoThere is much more to an interaction than someone's appearance. Perhaps “unattractive” men have worse social skills, or are are failing to signal they are not a threat.
- barry-cotter 8y agoThere is definitely more to an interaction than someone’s appearance but the number of situations in which it’s irrelevant are quite small, much though we might pretend otherwise. Ugly people have worse lives than beautiful ones, even if we completely ignore romance because people treat them worse. So one should work on being attractive. Some women put on makeup. Men do other things.