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> profanity and dishonesty. These two forms of norm-violating behavior This implies that honesty is the "norm". I disagree. IMO social etiquette dictates a tre
by tomp 8y ago
> profanity and dishonesty. These two forms of norm-violating behavior
This implies that honesty is the "norm". I disagree. IMO social etiquette dictates a tremendous amount of "everyday dishonesty" "white micro-lies", and even just not engaging in those (i.e. not "being actively honest", but already just "not being actively dishonest") breaks social norms in a noticeable way.
- computerex 8y agoCompletely agree. Working in a corporate environment, people tend to shy away from any type of negativity or conflict, at all. Being blunt and direct is viewed negatively. I have been told by mentors that I'm too direct and to the point as a critique, which is something I didn't know was even possible. It's incredible. But I have had to train myself to add "fluff" and language to "soften" what I am trying to communicate.
- EliRivers 8y agoDid you see this as a failing on your part - you just didn't notice how the majority of the humans around you operate - or a failing on the part of those other humans?
- computerex 8y agoI see it as a failure on my part, certainly not everyone else. That would be unreasonable. My personal preferred mode of communication is direct and to the point, but I guess most people are not like that.
- harlanji 8y ago> I have had to train myself to add "fluff" You could have quit and became a waiter. You made the choice to add fluff.