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“I Fell In Love With My Direct Report”
- cm2012 7y agoFascinating. Glad this guy shared his experience.
- alexgartrell 7y agoI would love to hear the report’s take on what happened. The “and I still love her” epilogue makes me think that she probably has a pretty different take.
- watwut 7y agoAnd third parties that he lost friendship with. It seems like there was a lot of drama at that point that goes further then just having relationship.
- Robin_Message 7y agoTo be fair, he said something about a failing startup which is likely to take work friendships to the limit anyway.
- jteppinette 7y agoI really enjoyed this. Very real. My immediate thought after reading the thread was that it could have been told as a 300 page novel, and it would have been significantly worse off because of it.
- toomuchlove 7y agoI suspect this story starts long before the author and their wife discover they have nothing in common. These (marrying before realizing incompatibility, then the obsessive all-or-nothing relationship with their direct report) sound like behaviors of someone who uses relationships to fill holes. I didn't really understand this about myself until starting therapy 1.5 years ago. I hope the author sees a good therapist. You deserve to be happy.
- speedplane 7y agoIt's nice that this guy's initially sad story turned out well for him. But why is the focus on the fact that he fell for a "direct report". Is the purpose of his post to tell a story about how he turned his life around through love? Or is he trying to suggest that becoming romantic with someone you manage is good? It's a nice little story, but it has an agenda.