>because it points the blame back mostly on the sufferer. It's certainly perceived to do that, but it can also be read as putting the power to change back most

>because it points the blame back mostly on the sufferer. It's certainly perceived to do that, but it can also be read as putting the power to change back mostly on the sufferer. Which is exactly right. Unfortunately it's a chicken/egg kinda situation where the advice is right but entirely indigestible to someone in need of it.