All of those sound like someone hasn't really listened to you tell your story and your desires, and taken the time to apply their own deep insights on what is i

All of those sound like someone hasn't really listened to you tell your story and your desires, and taken the time to apply their own deep insights on what is important to you. In other words, listening first, finding out what matters to you (not them) and caring about what you care about. I don't know many people who will do that, but I know a few(†), so I'm inclined to think it's that you haven't built up a useful enough network, or to put it a different way, made enough good and insightful friends. (†) Most of them not in IT. 1 and 3 also have the clue word "just", that says someone is shrugging off the enquiry. Even if you got one of those three responses, it would be a fine in a conversation, if you had the time with them to explain why the initial response is mismatched to your goals, and that idea was developed with further conversation.