> Faking it with pleasantries is toxic, a form of lying with misdirection. If you consider being pleasant to be the same as being a decent person, and not just

> Faking it with pleasantries is toxic, a form of lying with misdirection. If you consider being pleasant to be the same as being a decent person, and not just being polite, then I'd argue all of those things make you not pleasant. Even if you're incompetent if you were decent you'd admit to your faults and work on improving them to a required level. No decent person would willingly just let their team down.