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> An expectation of unconditional love is often abusive. It often boils down to expecting slavery and servitude from another person. I agree. I realized this,
by tokenpreneur 7y ago
> An expectation of unconditional love is often abusive. It often boils down to expecting slavery and servitude from another person.
I agree. I realized this, when my wife told me she would love me unconditionally, and I later pressed her to fulfill that oath in the midst of me behaving unreasonably towards her. That's not love, that's subjection.
What she meant by unconditional love is that she'd love me even if I'm sick and poor, and I'd rather she'd love me then than when I'm being a tyrant.
- DoreenMichele 7y agoMy last serious boyfriend was from an older middle eastern culture. In his view, setting a high bar for leaving a person's life intact, even if it means letting them go and walking away, is merely friendship, not love. I'm not at all impressed with the high percentage of people who promise to love each other forever when they take marriage vows, then seek to vindictively tear each other part during the divorce. My divorce was amicable.