I never understood the concept of developing love. I can understand falling in. Love is something you notice you already always have had. But I don't actually

I never understood the concept of developing love. I can understand falling in. Love is something you notice you already always have had. But I don't actually need to understand your experience to accept that that's how it happens for you. For me, there's two big parts: 1) I can tell. Both who you are, and how I am reacting to that, very quickly, very deeply. Consistently, this applies even to the parts of each of us that are revealed later on; tritely (and topically for HN) I also find this is true about software libraries and SaaS products: If it starts easy, it pretty much stays easy, and if it starts hard, it pretty much stays hard. Note that unfamiliarity != hard. 2) I can adjust. I don't change who I am to match someone else, but, my preferences DO change to match THEM. It's actually one of my favorite feelings, and every relationship I've ever been in I've noticed when their scent started to be my preference. Along with this, many little things are fungible, or at least, are only ever momentary irritation. But, I do actually understand developing love. I definitely also feel that, I see those moments where a little thing they do becomes deeply enjoyable and meaningful, that feeling of a little bit deeper of a connection forming. I know that feeling. I also know this initial recognition.