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I'll be on the male's side here because I am one: my wife and I haven't been able to conceive, going on 5 years trying now. I wish there was more (maybe any?) s

• tathougies 8y ago
  I'm sorry that you are going through this. As a man myself who has been through a lot of fertility-related experiences (recurrent miscarriages), I will echo the point that there is limited support for men, and even less interest in understanding male factors for fertility-related woes. For example, research is quite clear that there is a male factor of some sort related to pre-eclampsia and gestational hypertension in the woman (my wife has had gestational hypertension before). There is also research showing that non-standard sperm tests (for example DNA fragmentation) can affect miscarriage rates. I am sure there are other more advanced tests for men for those couples who are having trouble conceiving. However, every time I asked for these tests, it was pointed out to me that few labs are able to do the testing, and that it would be difficult to do. In many cases, I had to insist that I be tested at all. That's my experience. It's not just emotional support; IME, there seems to be a general disinterest in men's bodies as reproductive entities, even though there seems to be a great deal of interest in telling men how 'it takes two to tango' and 'be there for your wife' and '50% of problems are with the man' (it's like, okay if 50% of problems could be with me, then how come you can't test for any of them?)