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That disconnect is a mental health issue, there are names for it, it might be more common than we like to admit but it’s still a thing. Could you share some?

• pavel_lishin 7y ago
  It seems boring and banal to me, but it was mostly a college-aged and younger crowd who had a lot of time, and many of whom had less social skills than maybe we should have. After awhile, it really felt like a community. We shared a lot of online experiences, there were memes (weren't called that then, yet) being tossed around. Imagine all the silly bullshit you got up to in high school because there was a lot of time to kill, and a lot of people to kill it with. Now imagine that one of your friends from that group unilaterally said, "you can't come to school anymore". You suddenly lost a lot of your friends, a large part of your social circle is now missing, and there's one person at whose feet you can lay the blame. That's what's going through their head, and that's why they thought it was acceptable to harass me to get back into the forum. (This is why, elsewhere, I'm very pro codes-of-conduct. It's tiring having to try to explain to someone exactly why they're behaving like a tactless jackass. It's tiring having to be a parent to someone who's acting like they're 8 years old. It's easier to just point to rule 4.5 ("don't call people racial slurs") and say, "you fucked up, you're gone, this discussion is over" and block them on every form of social media.)