I find that highlighting how asking for help meets the need of community and support, while providing it meets the need of contributing to life. Both sides got

I find that highlighting how asking for help meets the need of community and support, while providing it meets the need of contributing to life. Both sides got their needs met. Everything else is extra. People aren't learning how to be grateful for themselves and their own vulnerability. I'm not going to take away that learning opportunity, especially by accepting things from them I don't want or need.