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In the real world, when someone offers something, they've already in their mind given you that. If you turn it down, it causes an internal conflict.
by WrtCdEvrydy 8y ago
In the real world, when someone offers something, they've already in their mind given you that.
If you turn it down, it causes an internal conflict.
- crawfordcomeaux 8y agoAnd it's part of their growth learn to let go of the rejection.
- sangnoir 8y agoThis is culture-specific! I know a couple of cultures where it's polite to offer (without actual intention of following through), and the expectation is that the person being asked also declines - out of politeness. Think of it as the equivalent of the American "How are you?" scripted exchange.
- agumonkey 8y agoI think India has (or had) a three level rules where the first 3 queries were just polite to show some kind of friendliness. After that your in honest/genuine interactions.
- usrusr 8y agoUnfortunately it's not quite that simple. The very same real world also contains offers that are customary given on the assumption that the other side says "thank you very much I will surely come back to you about this" as part of a politeness protocol but never even considers taking the offer seriously. "Please stay as long as you like" is how the last guests of a party thrown out.