Yes, be yourself. Own who you are. Accept who you are, brutal honesty. Then begins a self talk. You can't really have it be meaningful prior to brutal self

Yes, be yourself. Own who you are. Accept who you are, brutal honesty. Then begins a self talk. You can't really have it be meaningful prior to brutal self acceptance. Own your future. Who you are today is not who you have to be, or even will be. It is all about who you can be and why. When that why is rooted in your reasons, the change comes easy and it will endure too. In all of that is the difference between having to manage a layer of abstraction, forethought, dedicated to some sort of compliance or show , and thought as action, your very nature being that which makes sense, treats others, itself well. Own yourself. Others doing it for their reasons will leave you a mess, inhibited. Don't do it. Edit: how do I know? Did exactly what I put here in my 20's. Walked away from ugly family issues, religion and a lot of hate and intolreance. Married someone better than me, in the gets people sense, and she did the same in the technical sense. We made each other better. Owned it all the day I walked. Resolved to sort every last bit if all that shit and did, one long drive to work at a time, and one simple choice at a time. Starting is the hardest. Once doing this becomes part of your nature, the rest follows naturally. Another edit: Parts of this struck me the wrong way. Comment removed. Too harsh. Their story is solid. Is is things like this: >holistic self does not exist; we are made of many selves that are revealed through endless experimentation and self-examination. I would argue the self grows and matured, can become more complex, or simplify, based on experiences, and choices. Many selves, to me, is a compartmentalized mind, presenting fragments based on context. Those compartments can be resolved as the self-lies, failure to reach self acceptance are resolved. Lies compartmentalized our reason. So can simple error, denial. There is the reason, and there is what is associated with the lie or elevation of error or belief to fact. Reasoning across these boundaries us difficult and can be a source of anxiety to some, anger, shut down for others. The sense of who you are does not have to be so fragmented. That same process of self discovery and ideally acceptance can be revisited to decompartmentalize and congeal who we are into a more atomic entity. I would argue we benefit from doing that.