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I'd go even further in the opposite direction than other responders and say this can be a good thing. Your child getting lost in ikea is a safe way for them to

by mgfist 8y ago

I'd go even further in the opposite direction than other responders and say this can be a good thing. Your child getting lost in ikea is a safe way for them to learn the dangers of getting lost and also a safe challenge to overcome. Similar to how falling and hurting yourself in a playground is a safe way to test boundaries and experience challenge. Imagine you're 5 and you get lost in ikea and get scared to death. Nothing bad will happen because it's ikea, but you'll learn that getting lost is terrifying and you will be a lot less likely to do it again. Kids need to be safely challenged, or else they won't know how to respond to it when it happens for real. Not having challenges makes kids narcissistic and lowers their empathy. Helicopter parenting is turning our kids into the worse kinds of people.

wccrawford 8y ago
IMO, the problem isn't "the kid got lost in IKEA". The problem is "the kid was abducted in IKEA". We've got pretty good systems in place for dealing with kids who are merely lost. Dealing with kids who are abducted is another story, and a tracker definitely helps there. It's a sad reality that we have to worry about that situation still.
- Sir_Cmpwn 8y ago
  No, we don't have to worry about this situation, and using them to justify this technology is wrong. Child abduction by a non-parent is exceptionally rare. Each year there are around 200 of them, of which 90% make it home safely. That means that your child's risk of being abducted is about 0.00027%. That's absolutely no basis to justify this awful technology on, and no reason for you to worry as a parent. Not to mention: the abductor could just take your spyware watch off of the kid. source: https://www.fbi.gov/file-repository/2016-ncic-missing-person-and-unidentified-person-statistics.pdf/view https://www.fbi.gov/file-repository/2016-ncic-missing-person...
  - zestyping 8y ago
    I'm trying to understand how you got 200 from this report. On page 2, I see this paragraph about the Missing Person Circumstances (MPC) field in their database: "Of the 647,435 records entered in 2016, the MPC field was utilized in 315,995 (48.8%). When the MPC field was utilized in 2016 entries, 303,237 (96%) were coded as Runaway, 2,107 (.7%) as Abducted by Non-custodial Parent, 303 (.1%) as Abducted by Stranger, and 10,348 (3.3%) as Adult - Federally required entry." So it looks like one should take the number 303 for "Abducted by Stranger" and perhaps, since only 48.8% of records had this field populated, extrapolate to about 620 cases. Does that sound right, or should it be 200 based on a different reasoning? Of course, 620 cases is still a pretty small number. I just wanted to understand where your numbers came from. How did you get the figure of 90% making it home safely, and how did you calculate the probability of 0.00027%?
    - Sir_Cmpwn 8y ago
      Actually I have to admit that I originally wrote my numbers based on a random article I found which summarizes this source: https://www.creditdonkey.com/kidnapping-statistics.html https://www.creditdonkey.com/kidnapping-statistics.html Then I went to the source to verify that the information was there, but didn't re-run my numbers. I apologise, that was lazy and misleading.
      - zestyping 8y ago
        Oh, okay, cool. Thanks for clearing that up! I just happened to dive in because I also believe the panic about abductions by strangers is overblown, and wanted to be able to quote numbers with confidence.
- astura 8y ago
  This is ridiculous... Unless your tracker is intradermal, the abductor would just remove it.
- vangelis 8y ago
  Don't worry, your child is much more likely to be abducted by someone you know than someone off the street. I'd be the most wary of who you drove to Ikea with.
- djsumdog 8y ago
  abductions are not a real risk. They are incredibly incredibly rare. The fiction this is common is what has led to the over protection of kids and the inability of them to develop in the ways previous generations have. Kids are much much more likely to face abuse from a family member or close friend than they are to be abducted. The sheer rareness of Amber Alerts (not to mention their effectiveness) are a good indicator of that fact.
ed312 8y ago
I wonder if attaching a tracking bracelet (just to be sure the kid is not actually getting abducted) and intentionally "losing" the child might provide a useful formative experience without much risk.
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by mgfist 8y ago

wccrawford 8y ago

IMO, the problem isn't "the kid got lost in IKEA". The problem is "the kid was abducted in IKEA". We've got pretty good systems in place for dealing with kids who are merely lost. Dealing with kids who are abducted is another story, and a tracker definitely helps there. It's a sad reality that we have to worry about that situation still.

Sir_Cmpwn 8y ago
No, we don't have to worry about this situation, and using them to justify this technology is wrong. Child abduction by a non-parent is exceptionally rare. Each year there are around 200 of them, of which 90% make it home safely. That means that your child's risk of being abducted is about 0.00027%. That's absolutely no basis to justify this awful technology on, and no reason for you to worry as a parent. Not to mention: the abductor could just take your spyware watch off of the kid. source: https://www.fbi.gov/file-repository/2016-ncic-missing-person-and-unidentified-person-statistics.pdf/view https://www.fbi.gov/file-repository/2016-ncic-missing-person...
- zestyping 8y ago
  I'm trying to understand how you got 200 from this report. On page 2, I see this paragraph about the Missing Person Circumstances (MPC) field in their database: "Of the 647,435 records entered in 2016, the MPC field was utilized in 315,995 (48.8%). When the MPC field was utilized in 2016 entries, 303,237 (96%) were coded as Runaway, 2,107 (.7%) as Abducted by Non-custodial Parent, 303 (.1%) as Abducted by Stranger, and 10,348 (3.3%) as Adult - Federally required entry." So it looks like one should take the number 303 for "Abducted by Stranger" and perhaps, since only 48.8% of records had this field populated, extrapolate to about 620 cases. Does that sound right, or should it be 200 based on a different reasoning? Of course, 620 cases is still a pretty small number. I just wanted to understand where your numbers came from. How did you get the figure of 90% making it home safely, and how did you calculate the probability of 0.00027%?
  - Sir_Cmpwn 8y ago
    Actually I have to admit that I originally wrote my numbers based on a random article I found which summarizes this source: https://www.creditdonkey.com/kidnapping-statistics.html https://www.creditdonkey.com/kidnapping-statistics.html Then I went to the source to verify that the information was there, but didn't re-run my numbers. I apologise, that was lazy and misleading.
    - zestyping 8y ago
      Oh, okay, cool. Thanks for clearing that up! I just happened to dive in because I also believe the panic about abductions by strangers is overblown, and wanted to be able to quote numbers with confidence.
astura 8y ago
This is ridiculous... Unless your tracker is intradermal, the abductor would just remove it.
vangelis 8y ago
Don't worry, your child is much more likely to be abducted by someone you know than someone off the street. I'd be the most wary of who you drove to Ikea with.
djsumdog 8y ago
abductions are not a real risk. They are incredibly incredibly rare. The fiction this is common is what has led to the over protection of kids and the inability of them to develop in the ways previous generations have. Kids are much much more likely to face abuse from a family member or close friend than they are to be abducted. The sheer rareness of Amber Alerts (not to mention their effectiveness) are a good indicator of that fact.

ed312 8y ago

I wonder if attaching a tracking bracelet (just to be sure the kid is not actually getting abducted) and intentionally "losing" the child might provide a useful formative experience without much risk.

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