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I think a lot of people, me included, have quite a high barrier to things they're willing to discuss or reveal to co-workers regarding their personal life.

umvi 8y ago
This is probably the main issue. People have a "public face" and a "private face". Facebook is primarily a public face medium. Coworker relationships are (for the most part) public face interactions. The only people capable of seeing the private face (and thus potential red flags) are close family members and trusted friends.
libraryatnight 8y ago
co-workers are in many ways competition, revealing certain things to them can be bad for your career. And I'd bet that most people hiding things aren't murderous, just struggling.
- glenneroo 8y ago
  I don't know where you work, but I have never held a job in ~25 years where I considered any of my coworkers as any sort of competition, and actually quite the contrary, either camaraderie or at the worst, a lack of interest due to e.g. no common interests. I have the feeling that my coworkers always felt the same... perhaps I should ask around.
  - libraryatnight 8y ago
    I've rarely met people that let it hurt the camaraderie of the team (I have met them, rather cut throat people, but not often), but when there's three of us in a role and one spot we all want opens up - we're absolutely competing for it.
byproxy 8y ago
I think a lot of people, (probably) me included, have quite a high barrier to things they're willing to discuss or reveal to people they've paid to discuss and reveal these things to.
- exolymph 8y ago
  Definitely true of me. Even after years of therapy with a practitioner I liked and largely trusted, I still didn't fully open up about my issues unless there was an immediate crisis that I couldn't cope with emotionally.
robocat 8y ago
That barrier can remain even if the relationship is very trusting with regular close contact, not just work acquantances. Some people are just extremely good at hiding things, even from close friends/family (even those that are usually good at seeing through people).

umvi 8y ago

This is probably the main issue. People have a "public face" and a "private face". Facebook is primarily a public face medium. Coworker relationships are (for the most part) public face interactions. The only people capable of seeing the private face (and thus potential red flags) are close family members and trusted friends.

libraryatnight 8y ago

co-workers are in many ways competition, revealing certain things to them can be bad for your career. And I'd bet that most people hiding things aren't murderous, just struggling.

glenneroo 8y ago
I don't know where you work, but I have never held a job in ~25 years where I considered any of my coworkers as any sort of competition, and actually quite the contrary, either camaraderie or at the worst, a lack of interest due to e.g. no common interests. I have the feeling that my coworkers always felt the same... perhaps I should ask around.
- libraryatnight 8y ago
  I've rarely met people that let it hurt the camaraderie of the team (I have met them, rather cut throat people, but not often), but when there's three of us in a role and one spot we all want opens up - we're absolutely competing for it.

byproxy 8y ago

I think a lot of people, (probably) me included, have quite a high barrier to things they're willing to discuss or reveal to people they've paid to discuss and reveal these things to.

exolymph 8y ago
Definitely true of me. Even after years of therapy with a practitioner I liked and largely trusted, I still didn't fully open up about my issues unless there was an immediate crisis that I couldn't cope with emotionally.

robocat 8y ago

That barrier can remain even if the relationship is very trusting with regular close contact, not just work acquantances. Some people are just extremely good at hiding things, even from close friends/family (even those that are usually good at seeing through people).