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And the spouses, naturally, are supposed to get along with the program.

by matt4077 7y ago

mmsimanga 7y ago
I am guessing when you say "I do" you must have a pretty good idea of the person you are marrying.
- Moru 7y ago
  Weren't we talking about people in their twenties? Do you people often get married at that age? I thought it was more common to delay marriage and kids to later in the career nowadays?
  - souprock 7y ago
    That delay is common where many Hacker News people reside, in places ranging from San Francisco to northern Sweden. It is however unnatural, and people in more affordable locations are still starting families closer to the natural time. My wife and I had 5 or 6 kids in my twenties, and then about that many in our thirties, and then still more. This sort of family becomes impossible if you delay, and you might not realize you want it until well after you can't have it.
    - ben7799 7y ago
      Not that many people have 10+ kids, or something is just wrong with your post.
  - ben509 7y ago
    Women marrying into the military tend to be more conservative.
  - magduf 7y ago
    As the other poster said, women marring into the military tend to be more conservative, and they're generally looking for a financial set-up. They marry the military guy because he has a regular job that's hard to get fired from, usually paid housing, etc., and she won't have to work. Of course, a huge number of military marriages end in divorce, but then the wife gets a nice payout from that too.
  - alexhutcheson 7y ago
    People in the military tend to marry early, at least partially because there are a bunch of benefits that the military provides to spouses. If you get re-assigned to a base across the country, the military will pay to move your spouse, but not your girlfriend/boyfriend. If you need to be picked up from the base after work, that's a lot easier for a spouse to do (they have an ID) than a girlfriend/boyfriend. You also get a bigger housing stipend, they get medical benefits, etc. If you're in a long-term relationship anyway, there's a big financial benefit to making it "official".
    - dsfyu404ed 7y ago
      >they get medical benefits Hence the evolution of the species known as "Tricareatops".

And the spouses, naturally, are supposed to get along with the program.

mmsimanga 7y ago

I am guessing when you say "I do" you must have a pretty good idea of the person you are marrying.

Moru 7y ago
Weren't we talking about people in their twenties? Do you people often get married at that age? I thought it was more common to delay marriage and kids to later in the career nowadays?
- souprock 7y ago
  That delay is common where many Hacker News people reside, in places ranging from San Francisco to northern Sweden. It is however unnatural, and people in more affordable locations are still starting families closer to the natural time. My wife and I had 5 or 6 kids in my twenties, and then about that many in our thirties, and then still more. This sort of family becomes impossible if you delay, and you might not realize you want it until well after you can't have it.
  - ben7799 7y ago
    Not that many people have 10+ kids, or something is just wrong with your post.
- ben509 7y ago
  Women marrying into the military tend to be more conservative.
- magduf 7y ago
  As the other poster said, women marring into the military tend to be more conservative, and they're generally looking for a financial set-up. They marry the military guy because he has a regular job that's hard to get fired from, usually paid housing, etc., and she won't have to work. Of course, a huge number of military marriages end in divorce, but then the wife gets a nice payout from that too.
- alexhutcheson 7y ago
  People in the military tend to marry early, at least partially because there are a bunch of benefits that the military provides to spouses. If you get re-assigned to a base across the country, the military will pay to move your spouse, but not your girlfriend/boyfriend. If you need to be picked up from the base after work, that's a lot easier for a spouse to do (they have an ID) than a girlfriend/boyfriend. You also get a bigger housing stipend, they get medical benefits, etc. If you're in a long-term relationship anyway, there's a big financial benefit to making it "official".
  - dsfyu404ed 7y ago
    >they get medical benefits Hence the evolution of the species known as "Tricareatops".