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It's not just the potential sexual threat that generates discomfort. A friendly pat on the shoulder can also be interpreted as a dominance display.
by josh_fyi 8y ago
It's not just the potential sexual threat that generates discomfort. A friendly pat on the shoulder can also be interpreted as a dominance display.
- pacala 8y agoThe cat is out of the bag, can we please let this piece of poppsych die? A surprisingly large number of manager wannabe type at a FAANG company made a point to try to pat me on the back in public. Please stop trying to symbolically stomp on people you'd like on your team, it's demeaning. Especially for yourself.
- whenchamenia 8y agoI think, as your posts demonstrate, reading too much in to any action is problematic. If a platonic touch is 'symbolic stomping' to you, perhaps the issue is larger than a single action.
- pacala 8y agoRight. Except that none of my other coworkers tried the pat of the back trick. Except that said managers never did it in private. Just don't do it, instant respect losing move.
- sqldba 8y agoI know you’re being downvoted but I know EXACTLY what you mean. Hang in there.
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