> didn't speak from their own experience using "I" statements This feels like it is trying to teach a social skill through the medium of a code of conduct. Is

> didn't speak from their own experience using "I" statements This feels like it is trying to teach a social skill through the medium of a code of conduct. Is this successful at teaching? I think one thing thats challenging is that social groups genuinely do run more smoothly when people have more social skills. But spreading this knowledge is hard because: 1) Lots of people feel condescended-to when you offer them the advice of how to learn social skills. (See: Stephanie Hurlburt’s writing about unsolicited advice, Lots of people on this thread expressing that they feel like this post fails to treat them as adults) 2) Lots of people (like me) find Its hard to realize when there even is a particular skill to learn and from there, hard to find guidance on how to learn it. People are reluctant to offer advice to group #2 because it upsets group #1. People in group #1 get condescended-to all the time by people trying to help out group #2.