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Two things: 1. You're a woman, and men will hit on you, and that's not a bad thing; it's biology. 2. If you think SF men are aggressive, then obviously you ha

by jscore 16y ago

Two things: 1. You're a woman, and men will hit on you, and that's not a bad thing; it's biology. 2. If you think SF men are aggressive, then obviously you haven't been out much. I don't think I've been anywhere in the world that's LESS aggressive than SF when it comes to dating/mating. Go to Brazil and see what aggressiveness is.

buro9 16y ago
#2 doesn't make it right. Does a woman not have the right not to face that? If you've got a girl, don't you feel personally that she shouldn't have to face that? At what point are aggressive come-ons just harassment?
- jscore 16y ago
  "Does a woman not have the right not to face that?" Are you speaking for ALL women? In Brazil, women love it when you aggressively peruse them. In SF, men don't talk to women, and women's number one complaint is exactly that.
- enjo 16y ago
  From my perspective? No, she really doesn't have the right not to face that. She's a woman. It's biology. Part of being a human being is interacting with other human beings, many of home would like to sleep with you. She should have to deal with harrasment? Nope, but that's a different thing entirely. Somebody scoping out your card and then asking you out on a date isn't harassing you. They're asking you on a date. It's what happens after you say 'no' that things become different.
hugh3 16y ago
All she's complaining about is not that she gets hit on, but that she keeps getting hit on in the wrong way. She gives her contact details out to men whom she thinks want to be business contacts, who then wind up calling her for dates. It's a simple rule: if you meet a woman and you're interested in her in that way, then hit on her properly and ask her for her number in a way that makes your intentions non-ambiguous. If you're interested in her professionally then by all means exchange business cards. If you're interested in her in both ways then... well, choose one.

by jscore 16y ago

buro9 16y ago

#2 doesn't make it right. Does a woman not have the right not to face that? If you've got a girl, don't you feel personally that she shouldn't have to face that? At what point are aggressive come-ons just harassment?

jscore 16y ago
"Does a woman not have the right not to face that?" Are you speaking for ALL women? In Brazil, women love it when you aggressively peruse them. In SF, men don't talk to women, and women's number one complaint is exactly that.
enjo 16y ago
From my perspective? No, she really doesn't have the right not to face that. She's a woman. It's biology. Part of being a human being is interacting with other human beings, many of home would like to sleep with you. She should have to deal with harrasment? Nope, but that's a different thing entirely. Somebody scoping out your card and then asking you out on a date isn't harassing you. They're asking you on a date. It's what happens after you say 'no' that things become different.

hugh3 16y ago

All she's complaining about is not that she gets hit on, but that she keeps getting hit on in the wrong way. She gives her contact details out to men whom she thinks want to be business contacts, who then wind up calling her for dates. It's a simple rule: if you meet a woman and you're interested in her in that way, then hit on her properly and ask her for her number in a way that makes your intentions non-ambiguous. If you're interested in her professionally then by all means exchange business cards. If you're interested in her in both ways then... well, choose one.