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And that is the risk she is accommodating in. She could always divorce away before it turns bad and look for other options. That is what the parent comment mea

And that is the risk she is accommodating in. She could always divorce away before it turns bad and look for other options. That is what the parent comment means "the beautiful wife will soon discover she has much better possibilities in the new country." Abusive marriages have nothing to do with if they wedded out of mail order or love. Either can turn abusive. > Because he bought her, Buying humans is illegal. > She will never be respected partner with equal agency. There is never a grain of truth in it except for vastly simplistic generalization. > They are literally dangerous ones to date Again! premature judgmental attitude.

watwut 8y ago
Abusive relationships have a lot to do with one party believing to be entitled to control the other party. And those who order a bride are in that category. It is not like they would be ordering her for any other reason. That is simple risk factor evaluation one does when selecting partners. Normaly you guess on small hints, in this case it is pretty easy to see where you stand. For sex, there is prostitution. This mail oder thing is about other wishes. And plan to be cool with whatever she decides to do is not one of them.
- philonoist 8y ago
  Meh! Men are not some robots that us pessimists programmed to turn into all the list of attributes that you just now prescribed when met with so and so situation. Just because I bought a cat or dog doesn't mean I am going to abuse by feeling entitled and owning it. With mail order women, women get just the same rights as any other women in marriage. Police would be after me otherwise. It is the responsibility of such women who voluntarily participate as mail order brides to educate themselves of their rights to assert them whenever apposite. Mail order transaction is perfectly legal and has no more abuse risk statistically than other kinds of mainstream marriages. >It is not like they would be ordering her for any other reason. Actually plenty said it is like they would be ordering her for other reasons - love, companionship and marriage. You are again and again drawing premature conclusions like "People who own a kitchen knife are damn sure to be murderers!". Udik explains it better -https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=19622835 https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=19622835

watwut 8y ago

Abusive relationships have a lot to do with one party believing to be entitled to control the other party. And those who order a bride are in that category. It is not like they would be ordering her for any other reason. That is simple risk factor evaluation one does when selecting partners. Normaly you guess on small hints, in this case it is pretty easy to see where you stand. For sex, there is prostitution. This mail oder thing is about other wishes. And plan to be cool with whatever she decides to do is not one of them.

philonoist 8y ago
Meh! Men are not some robots that us pessimists programmed to turn into all the list of attributes that you just now prescribed when met with so and so situation. Just because I bought a cat or dog doesn't mean I am going to abuse by feeling entitled and owning it. With mail order women, women get just the same rights as any other women in marriage. Police would be after me otherwise. It is the responsibility of such women who voluntarily participate as mail order brides to educate themselves of their rights to assert them whenever apposite. Mail order transaction is perfectly legal and has no more abuse risk statistically than other kinds of mainstream marriages. >It is not like they would be ordering her for any other reason. Actually plenty said it is like they would be ordering her for other reasons - love, companionship and marriage. You are again and again drawing premature conclusions like "People who own a kitchen knife are damn sure to be murderers!". Udik explains it better -https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=19622835 https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=19622835