(sorry for delayed reply, the comment brought back quite a few things). Yes. Having the conversation before really helps. Not only is it said to put less stres

(sorry for delayed reply, the comment brought back quite a few things). Yes. Having the conversation before really helps. Not only is it said to put less stress on those close to oneself, but it put things in a bit larger perspective. A 2nd+ opinion is also critical, and who know what one would have said in our case. I strongly hope that the medical science is today better than 30 years ago so that the advice the doctors gives are today more accurate. For myself I have thought a few times about what I would want, but have not reached a decision. The article is a strong reminder how badly it can and in many cases will happen when someone demand full treatment.