The real concern, is why are they marrying those men they used to reject. Feelings and emotions don't go away, and "settling" is very toxic thing to most people

The real concern, is why are they marrying those men they used to reject. Feelings and emotions don't go away, and "settling" is very toxic thing to most people. They usually get more resentful about it over time(both the people who settle, and the people who were settled for if they find out).