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Similar experience here. No one prepared me for the roller-coaster effect of subjective male attractiveness. (I'm a Man) I've always felt that you could break i
by everdrive 8y ago
Similar experience here. No one prepared me for the roller-coaster effect of subjective male attractiveness. (I'm a Man) I've always felt that you could break it up pretty well by relative status. Here's how it went for me.
- 6th grade - extraordinarily unattractive to the opposite sex.
- 8th grade - not outwardly reviled.
- 9th grade - outwardly reviled again.
- 12th grade - actually dating, with a bit of interest here or there.
- Freshman year of college - lower relative interest.
- Senior year of college - enough girls are interested that they're fighting with each other.
- 1st year in the workforce - outwardly reviled again!
- 5-10 years into the workforce - hard say, got married, so I must have been doing something right.
So, did I change much between 8th and 9th grade? Or between 12th grade and freshman year of college? No, obviously not, but my status relative to the bellcurve of available men did change quite a bit. This was most evident from my senior year to college to my first year in the workforce. I went from amazing, to worthless all due to graduation!
Please bear in mind, I'm not complaining about the nature of female preferences here. However, I do wish someone had explained that this would occur, and also why it would occur. I remember being quite surprised at the time.
- raducu 8y agoSorry to break it to you, but women chose you not because you're suddenly more attractive than your friend, but because they've had 15 years or so to learn that your friend won't settle down and their biological clock is ringing real hard in their 30s. It's quite cynical, I know.
- everdrive 8y agoI had the most interest from women when I was 21-22, in my senior year of college. How does your statement explain my result?
- raducu 8y agoBecause among college men, the more senior you are, the higher status; also the single women of your age either date you or they date some guy younger(naah, women don't do that) or they date some guy outside of college(a bit harder) -- plus single women feel that it's "now or never" since it's the final year in college. It USED to be be the same thing when you were in highschool before tinder and social media: as a male, the more senior the higher status you had -- i.e. 9th grader males will just drool at their female coleagues going out with more senior males, until in 12th grade you finally hit payday. Not so anymore because tinder and social media allow females to reach a much broader male audience. It's the same thing with women in their thirties -- they notice they get a lot less male attention -- first the bad boys stop noticing them and a couple of years later even the nicest of guys won't give them that sweet validating attention women crave, so the smart ones settle down with a nice guy in her early thirties, the not so smart ones end up basically cat ladies.
- everdrive 8y agoI think those are all fine points, but you said "women chose you" (me in particular) -- I don't think I disagree with the general trends you've laid you, but you don't know the individuals in my life, or their motivations.
- danlugo92 8y agoIn this situation, the man would be scraps... Wouldn't him? How would that make him feel? As someone unlucky with girls I vowed to never let myself become scraps for any woman when I get older.
- WrtCdEvrydy 8y agoEnjoy the fun.