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I’m genuinely concerned that people seriously think this is a _solution_. Beyond sex, relationships with romantic partners are a complex, rewarding part of the

by bm1362 7y ago

I’m genuinely concerned that people seriously think this is a _solution_. Beyond sex, relationships with romantic partners are a complex, rewarding part of the human experience. How did that get lost to some?

nyxxie 7y ago
For some it’s not easily achieved, so I’d suppose it’s less about dudes thinking “meh, this is more convenient” than dudes thinking “meh, I’m not getting laid anyways”
Cthulhu_ 7y ago
You say rewarding, but for a lot of people it's an incomprehensible minefield. I mean where do you even start?
- krapp 7y ago
  Humans have been working it out for a million years or so, it isn't that difficult. If someone considers relationships with other people to be an "incomprehensible minefield," then the problem is with them, not the nature of human relationships. Too many people overthink things, seeing each potential relationship as a puzzle to be solved, or searching for some general purpose sexual algorithm for which they can provide the inputs and recieve sexual or emotional fulfillment, or they expect hostility and deception and treat dating like an interrogation. And of course some people just don't have empathy for the opposite sex and don't understand social boundaries or cues.
  - CompanionCuuube 7y ago
    > If someone considers relationships with other people to be an "incomprehensible minefield," then the problem is with them, not the nature of human relationships. Is it a reasonable position to tell a disabled person who considers a society with no handicap accessibility that the problem is them, not with the nature of society?
    - krapp 7y ago
      Are we talking about disabled people? I was under the impression we were talking about a general majority of sexually frustrated young men.
      - CompanionCuuube 7y ago
        > Are we talking about disabled people? At what point does lack of ability to engage socially become a disability? Your statement already acknowledged their difficulties.

by bm1362 7y ago

nyxxie 7y ago

For some it’s not easily achieved, so I’d suppose it’s less about dudes thinking “meh, this is more convenient” than dudes thinking “meh, I’m not getting laid anyways”

Cthulhu_ 7y ago

You say rewarding, but for a lot of people it's an incomprehensible minefield. I mean where do you even start?

krapp 7y ago
Humans have been working it out for a million years or so, it isn't that difficult. If someone considers relationships with other people to be an "incomprehensible minefield," then the problem is with them, not the nature of human relationships. Too many people overthink things, seeing each potential relationship as a puzzle to be solved, or searching for some general purpose sexual algorithm for which they can provide the inputs and recieve sexual or emotional fulfillment, or they expect hostility and deception and treat dating like an interrogation. And of course some people just don't have empathy for the opposite sex and don't understand social boundaries or cues.
- CompanionCuuube 7y ago
  > If someone considers relationships with other people to be an "incomprehensible minefield," then the problem is with them, not the nature of human relationships. Is it a reasonable position to tell a disabled person who considers a society with no handicap accessibility that the problem is them, not with the nature of society?
  - krapp 7y ago
    Are we talking about disabled people? I was under the impression we were talking about a general majority of sexually frustrated young men.
    - CompanionCuuube 7y ago
      > Are we talking about disabled people? At what point does lack of ability to engage socially become a disability? Your statement already acknowledged their difficulties.