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The part about the Asian woman trying to "decolonize" herself after realizing she was only dating white guys was funny and sad. She wound up going on 6 dates -

The part about the Asian woman trying to "decolonize" herself after realizing she was only dating white guys was funny and sad. She wound up going on 6 dates - 5 with black guys and one with a half Asian half white guy. People talk a lot about "white male privilege" and I think this is probably the biggest example. As a white guy, I feel bad for my Asian male friends. Some of the most racist things I've ever heard in my life came from Asian women talking about Asian men. It must feel so shitty for those guys.

nautical 8y ago
The statistics keep changing over the years ... If you see https://theblog.okcupid.com/race-and-attraction-2009-2014-107dcbb4f060 https://theblog.okcupid.com/race-and-attraction-2009-2014-10... In 2014 : --------- Asian women preferred Asian men White women preferred White men Black Women preferred Black men and Latino preferred Latino men Where as in 2009 --------- Asian women were preferring White men but its interesting to see that Asian men almost always preferred Asian women
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ravenstine 8y ago
Yet it's often not in our control, since we also have to consider things besides race like cultural background. I would date black women if I could relate to them on as much as I could from other women of other backgrounds. I've known enough black women where I know that I don't "click" with most of them, even if we get along on a platonic basis. It goes to show how culturally segregated we can still be in America. (not that it isn't as bad or worse elsewhere) I've found that I can be attracted to all sorts of women. Different "races", sizes, shapes, ages, etc. But I'm primarily attracted to white and south-east Asian women. Why? The first one is kind of obvious since people consider me white, but I really don't know about the second other than that I seem to get along really well with them. If someone genuinely wants to open themselves up to other sorts of people, I think that's great. The part where it would get weird for me is if someone was purposely dating people they aren't normally attracted to in order to make themselves feel good about being less racist. Everyone's talking about "fetishization" these days, but purposely dating black guys can be fetishizing even if it's well-intentioned.

nautical 8y ago

The statistics keep changing over the years ... If you see https://theblog.okcupid.com/race-and-attraction-2009-2014-107dcbb4f060 https://theblog.okcupid.com/race-and-attraction-2009-2014-10... In 2014 : --------- Asian women preferred Asian men White women preferred White men Black Women preferred Black men and Latino preferred Latino men Where as in 2009 --------- Asian women were preferring White men but its interesting to see that Asian men almost always preferred Asian women

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ravenstine 8y ago

Yet it's often not in our control, since we also have to consider things besides race like cultural background. I would date black women if I could relate to them on as much as I could from other women of other backgrounds. I've known enough black women where I know that I don't "click" with most of them, even if we get along on a platonic basis. It goes to show how culturally segregated we can still be in America. (not that it isn't as bad or worse elsewhere) I've found that I can be attracted to all sorts of women. Different "races", sizes, shapes, ages, etc. But I'm primarily attracted to white and south-east Asian women. Why? The first one is kind of obvious since people consider me white, but I really don't know about the second other than that I seem to get along really well with them. If someone genuinely wants to open themselves up to other sorts of people, I think that's great. The part where it would get weird for me is if someone was purposely dating people they aren't normally attracted to in order to make themselves feel good about being less racist. Everyone's talking about "fetishization" these days, but purposely dating black guys can be fetishizing even if it's well-intentioned.