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You know plinkplonk, you make some fine points there†. What would you feel about the following - how about stating upfront your lack of intention to insult? "I
by igravious 16y ago
You know plinkplonk, you make some fine points there†. What would you feel about the following - how about stating upfront your lack of intention to insult?
"I'm not criticizing you personally but, yada yada yada"
†this being and polite malarky is a cinch, wish I'd known sooner
- thalur 16y agoYou have to be careful that what follows the "but" is not a personal criticisim. For example: "I don't mean to be rude, but you're an idiot" is no less rude as a result of claiming not to be rude (though they /may/ not notice this and it might work).
- StrawberryFrog 16y agothat kind of phrase is called a "but-head" http://www.boston.com/bostonglobe/ideas/articles/2010/11/14/i_hate_to_tell_you/ http://www.boston.com/bostonglobe/ideas/articles/2010/11/14/...