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A few bits of advice which I have collected over the years. Hopefully something rings true for you: 1. Complex software systems are HARD to work on. I think eve
by throwaway6542 8y ago
A few bits of advice which I have collected over the years. Hopefully something rings true for you:
1. Complex software systems are HARD to work on. I think everyone in the industry struggles to piece it together. And you are young, so it probably will feel hard and complex. I think you are on the normal path.
2. Maintaining balance in your life is HARD. Keep those friendships up, keep trying to socialise, you're doing the right thing there.
3. Counseling/therapy are really good things, don't be afraid to try that option. Different people get this different ways - either through religion or through referral from your GP (doctor) or go privately, or talking to eg grandparents. So find something right for you.
4. Try to untangle the problems from each other. Your work related stress and your friendship/loneliness don't have to be a tangled mess. Straighten those things out into separate issues. The metaphor I use is to have separate containers for work stress vs family stress etc. Keep things in their own box and practice not letting those things influence each other too much.
5. Sometimes a job change is the right thing, and can make a big difference. Even if it seems like a job SHOULD be fulfulling and fun and rewarding, it might not be the right job for you. But to try and evaluate this rationally, and make a move for a positive reason.
6. One thing a counselor once told me: it's like you have a devil on one shoulder and an angel on the other. They are both wispering things in your ear (good and bad). Try to keep those little characters the same size. Don't let the devil seem so big that you are only listening to him.
7 It sounds like you have had some positive feedback, so really try to let that sink in and not doubt it. If someone told you you are doing well, well you are, so take that to heart and get some comfort from that, get yourself a treat to celebrate that.