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In 20 years of programming I have learned that all code is terrible, some is tolerable. You will get used to it. What fixed my recurring unwanted thoughts was

In 20 years of programming I have learned that all code is terrible, some is tolerable. You will get used to it. What fixed my recurring unwanted thoughts was going to a meditation meetup. It takes some practice but you can get to a point where unwanted thoughts do not upset you, and eventually they will go away. It helps to meditate in a group, and you may find some friends there. What helped me a lot with social stuff was CrossFit and Martial Arts, and dance classes. These things will make it easier to get dates and you will make friends. They are hard but if you keep going to class you will get it. It helps to have something to look forward too after work. It was kinda funny, when I first started swing dance I was way more nervous then in martial arts, but in swing dance there were not 200lb guys trying to punch me in the face!

kzisme 8y ago
Are you still doing Crossfit? Since I've began working remote I've really done nothing after work and I think it's starting to effect me. A Crossfit place opened near me, and I've considered joining but wasn't sure if I would like it.
- opwieurposiu 8y ago
  I am still at it after 4 years, though my attendance has suffered since the kids arrived. Crossfit is the only fitness regime that has done anything for me. I think this is because I don't have to think or plan I just go to class and do the work and go home. Also they adjust the difficulty level so it is just on the edge of what is possible for you to do. It was an ego shock when I started out and all the girls can lift 3x the weight I can but I think that was good for me.
throwaway476 8y ago
>What helped me a lot with social stuff was CrossFit and Martial Arts, and dance classes. These things will make it easier to get dates and you will make friends Is it really easy to get to know people in those situations ? I am awkward with people atleast for a month after I meet them. 2-3 years ago I went to the gym regularly for half an year, but didn't manage to befriend anyone there or even get to know somebody's name. Maybe I wasn't trying or the gym is just different... I will have to try search for something related to hiking/being out in nature. It's been on my mind to do something that makes you feel alive - that generates adrenaline ? I am a little fascinated with how humans fit in nature and what it takes for us to survive in the wild away from civilization. And in general the idea of overcoming physical challenges of your body. Even though I am a softie... Maybe there is an activity like that.
- denkmoon 8y ago
  People go to the gym to do a specific thing, it's not a great place to socialise. Group sports is definitely more socially oriented.

kzisme 8y ago

Are you still doing Crossfit? Since I've began working remote I've really done nothing after work and I think it's starting to effect me. A Crossfit place opened near me, and I've considered joining but wasn't sure if I would like it.

opwieurposiu 8y ago
I am still at it after 4 years, though my attendance has suffered since the kids arrived. Crossfit is the only fitness regime that has done anything for me. I think this is because I don't have to think or plan I just go to class and do the work and go home. Also they adjust the difficulty level so it is just on the edge of what is possible for you to do. It was an ego shock when I started out and all the girls can lift 3x the weight I can but I think that was good for me.

throwaway476 8y ago

>What helped me a lot with social stuff was CrossFit and Martial Arts, and dance classes. These things will make it easier to get dates and you will make friends Is it really easy to get to know people in those situations ? I am awkward with people atleast for a month after I meet them. 2-3 years ago I went to the gym regularly for half an year, but didn't manage to befriend anyone there or even get to know somebody's name. Maybe I wasn't trying or the gym is just different... I will have to try search for something related to hiking/being out in nature. It's been on my mind to do something that makes you feel alive - that generates adrenaline ? I am a little fascinated with how humans fit in nature and what it takes for us to survive in the wild away from civilization. And in general the idea of overcoming physical challenges of your body. Even though I am a softie... Maybe there is an activity like that.

denkmoon 8y ago
People go to the gym to do a specific thing, it's not a great place to socialise. Group sports is definitely more socially oriented.