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While I agree, I don't think this is particularly new. I've been married 20 years now, so the last time I approached a girl was in the 1900's - and I still rec
by commandlinefan 8y ago
While I agree, I don't think this is particularly new. I've been married 20 years now, so the last time I approached a girl was in the 1900's - and I still recall the look of utter disgust and contempt that I would get from at least 80% of the women I tried to approach (mind you, I'm talking about going out to bars and clubs where there's sort of an expectation of meeting or at least talking to strangers). I was hardly alone, either. Being rejected - cruelly and viciously - is part and parcel of the male dating experience; I just think that young men have gotten tired of it.
- u201904 8y ago20 yrs ago? I am shocked. I thought this was just a 2000 shit. I felt 1900 was a time when there was a respect and a good relation was treasured. Did the one you end up with, treat you right from the beginning? Any tips or advice? You are true, I am bloodly fedup with this shit. I am not an animal nor have I treated woman badly, I dont find a need to apologize for some other guys shit. This is the same sentiment with all my friends. I am not going to sugarcoat or feel bad for who I am. Like me as I am, if it happens, it happens. I don't mind if I end up alone. I rather be single, than tied up to a monster and awaiting the sweet relief of death. Plus, if a girl only knows the shitty type of guy, I wonder what is so messed up in her that all the jerks are just drawn to her or may be she just hates to admit it to herself, that she wants shit. I distance myself from girls like that. You cannot respect me, there is nothing. Mutual respect is vital.
- lm28469 8y ago> Mutual respect is vital. Yeah, seeing how you talk about women I guess you have a long road ahead of you.
- dang 8y agoPlease don't respond to a bad comment by breaking the site guidelines yourself. https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html
- everdrive 8y agoI think you're absolutely right, and this is part of the challenge of this sort of approach: can you take the sometimes brutal rejection gracefully. This is not new, although technology may exaggerate some of the trends that already exist. Notably, at least when it comes to an initial meeting ~80% of men are "below average." This is frankly a trope of most of the action/romance movies out there. How does Jasmine initially respond to Aladdin? By telling him what a worthless scrub he is. How does Aladdin prove he's not a worthless scrub? By hard work, a good attitude, and persistence. Jasmine eventually sees the value he demonstrates. There's more complexity here than what I've laid out. But, think on this: Tinder mostly cuts the process off at approach.