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This hurt to read, got hosed on my last performance review/raise because my supervisor threw me under the bus for things he never voiced as issues when HIS boss

This hurt to read, got hosed on my last performance review/raise because my supervisor threw me under the bus for things he never voiced as issues when HIS boss started asking questions he didn't know the answer to (because I do all the work). Got the same raise/bonus as someone he referred to as "retarded", so I've been working on #1 because I've already caught myself doing #2 because even after voicing concerns and trying to fix communication issues, management hasn't changed at all. The shitty part about #2 is that a lot of times you don't catch yourself doing it at first. It starts off as just having a bad productivity day, then you stop caring about busting your ass for a deadline because it's never recognized, then you stop trying to chase after people to answer your emails despite getting told that, rather than programming, I need to reply faster...Slippery slope of apathy. I think I liked my job at some point.

scruple 8y ago
> someone he referred to as "retarded" Yikes. Even if I had gotten a huge raise, 25% or higher, if I heard my manager say this I'd be looking for a new job that day. There's no way that person is fit for their position. If they're willing to say that about someone in front of you, you have to assume they're willing to say the same thing about you in front of someone else. The point being that that behavior is very toxic, very unprofessional, and is nothing but a giant red flag to get out.
- mkane848 8y ago
  In the same conversation, he said "You're friends with <coworker> outside of work, right? Look, don't tell him this, but we can get 10 of him, we can't find many of you" then still gave me a 2.5% raise. I literally don't get what sort of person you have to be to confirm that someone's my friend, then proceed to shit on them in a professional setting. Head of the department (his direct boss) was sitting there too. The co-worker in question has basically been single-handedly tackling security and busts his ass, but luckily his supervisor isn't terrible and goes to bat so he at least got the raise he deserved (he's still looking for other jobs too, don't worry). Been looking (not as hard as I should be) for a new job since that review, unfortunately being stubborn about staying in central New Jersey isn't doing me any favors. Just trying to maintain my sanity in the meantime while I look around :/
  - scruple 8y ago
    That's honestly insane. I mean, you know that people like that are a dime a dozen, and that they're obviously out there in companies all throughout departments as rank and file and in management and executive positions. I guess it's just a little bit extra terrifying to wake up one day and realize it's your boss, and from what you're saying it's his boss, too. > unfortunately being stubborn about staying in central New Jersey isn't doing me any favors. Just trying to maintain my sanity in the meantime while I look around :/ I know that all too well. I'm not dealing with managers who are as outwardly assholish as you are but there's more problems than solutions where I work. My current flavor of employment handcuffs are a full-time remote position. The job itself isn't that bad, but I'm underpaid and overworked. The full-time remote plus the little bit of autonomy that I have in my work keeps me from looking too hard. Complacency, by any other name.

scruple 8y ago

> someone he referred to as "retarded" Yikes. Even if I had gotten a huge raise, 25% or higher, if I heard my manager say this I'd be looking for a new job that day. There's no way that person is fit for their position. If they're willing to say that about someone in front of you, you have to assume they're willing to say the same thing about you in front of someone else. The point being that that behavior is very toxic, very unprofessional, and is nothing but a giant red flag to get out.

mkane848 8y ago
In the same conversation, he said "You're friends with <coworker> outside of work, right? Look, don't tell him this, but we can get 10 of him, we can't find many of you" then still gave me a 2.5% raise. I literally don't get what sort of person you have to be to confirm that someone's my friend, then proceed to shit on them in a professional setting. Head of the department (his direct boss) was sitting there too. The co-worker in question has basically been single-handedly tackling security and busts his ass, but luckily his supervisor isn't terrible and goes to bat so he at least got the raise he deserved (he's still looking for other jobs too, don't worry). Been looking (not as hard as I should be) for a new job since that review, unfortunately being stubborn about staying in central New Jersey isn't doing me any favors. Just trying to maintain my sanity in the meantime while I look around :/
- scruple 8y ago
  That's honestly insane. I mean, you know that people like that are a dime a dozen, and that they're obviously out there in companies all throughout departments as rank and file and in management and executive positions. I guess it's just a little bit extra terrifying to wake up one day and realize it's your boss, and from what you're saying it's his boss, too. > unfortunately being stubborn about staying in central New Jersey isn't doing me any favors. Just trying to maintain my sanity in the meantime while I look around :/ I know that all too well. I'm not dealing with managers who are as outwardly assholish as you are but there's more problems than solutions where I work. My current flavor of employment handcuffs are a full-time remote position. The job itself isn't that bad, but I'm underpaid and overworked. The full-time remote plus the little bit of autonomy that I have in my work keeps me from looking too hard. Complacency, by any other name.