I really hate the concept that parents push for their kids to experience whatever they felt was normal in their upbringing. What about taking even the tiniest b

I really hate the concept that parents push for their kids to experience whatever they felt was normal in their upbringing. What about taking even the tiniest bit of critical thinking and conclude that you should want for your kids whatever turned out to be valuable in your upbringing and not want whatever you reflect on as negative or wasteful‽ I have low tolerance for B.S. myself, and I basically did whatever homework was really meaningful and skipped whatever was busy-work. My own school grades reflected primarily the arbitrariness of which teachers put higher weighting on tedious homework. Homework is the source of my main memory of academic injustice: valedictorian regularly didn't finish homework whenever she knew she would get away with lying about it (holding up some half-done or even different-subject paper and getting an "okay" from teacher just going around checking everyone). Meanwhile, my honesty that I sometimes did it and other times not brought me careful scrutiny so that I was marked down for every little unfinished item in each assignment.