I've suffered from (at times) pretty debilitating depression since I was early teens I think. In the last few years I've spend a lot of free time in and around

I've suffered from (at times) pretty debilitating depression since I was early teens I think. In the last few years I've spend a lot of free time in and around crisis support and rehabilitating people back into lives after mental health crisis. There are a lot of people with "social" mental health issues (depression being the main one) that have no interest in the process of getting better and rehabilitating themselves into a life. I've worked with a lot of shades in the spectrum and the ones with real motivation to be better just aren't there long. The opposite side is the people that make no progress and are in the same community saying the same things and seeking the same amount of sympathy for months or years. Some people define themselves as their illness and that will last their entire lives and they become a victim to themselves. Other people aren't ready yet for the struggle of clawing your way back into a life. I was like that for a while, the sad and unpleasant truth is that severe depression is comfortable. It's addictive. You can completely defer any sense of responsibility, of expectation, of necessity to do anything really, all because you can define yourself as depressed and that is at least something. It's not healthy to pander to that, and criticising it isn't cruel or mean. It's important that all MH issues can be talked about, but we are really still in the infancy of it, and don't seem to be ready to also acknowledge the unpleasant realities as well. Not everyone with a MH issue is brave, they're not all fighting to get better, and it's not on everyone else to help save them when they won't save themselves. In crisis support the people that stay are the ones that understand that you can't save someone. You can give them a minute, and hour, a day maybe for them to decide they want to save themselves.