It's easy to think not being an asshole is simple. But if you look more closely, what defines an asshole is subjective. For example, does not offering water to

It's easy to think not being an asshole is simple. But if you look more closely, what defines an asshole is subjective. For example, does not offering water to your guest make you an asshole? In some circles it does, in some it does not. What about offering food? On top of that, one also should not be TOO nice, it raises suspicion, make you a doormat, and most likely make your social interactions more difficult. So when the goal is walking along a subjective line of being reasonably nice, you'll see why so many people cross to the asshole side, according to one person's standard.