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"I could have learned what I did in a much shorter time." If you were just looking for a specific skill or job training then Uni may have not been the place fo

"I could have learned what I did in a much shorter time." If you were just looking for a specific skill or job training then Uni may have not been the place for you. "I've never been impressed with Ivy league or other "rarified air" educational establishments." I did undergrad at a great but niche school and Grad school at a fairly exceptional school and there is a difference. The top schools generally have the best profs, students, facilities. It was inspiring and motivating, and the relationships and networks do matter as well. As far as 'looking down their noses' ... this comes in two parts 1) they are doing it, sometimes without knowing it but 2) often we perceive 'snobbery' when really it's just our own insecurity. When we perceive someone to be of higher social status (ie our perception), or, when we think that they may perceive us as having lower social status, then I think we have a tendency to interpret every little thing as snobbery, when really it might be nothing at all.

stirfrykitty 8y ago
You make great points, and thank you for responding with zero perceived animosity, a rarity these days. Personally, I'm not insecure. I grew up military, and served for 8 years. I'm you're atypical alpha male. I have will and intent in spades, but I care deeply for other people. Let me explain... My time in the Corps taught me that we are all equal, no matter our origins. I don't play favorites, be it education, time in position, man/woman, it doesn't matter. I believe in earned merit. Full stop. I treat everyone with dignity and respect, but merit is earned and demonstrated. I don't yell at juniors, I lead from the front. There is nothing I will not do for a teammate who tries their best. I tell my teammates even now, please, make mistakes. It's healthy. If you bork a production server, and you did your best, but made mistakes, we'll fix it together. You learn, and I'll learn along with you, because maybe I could have done something better, like documentation, or settings. Good leaders are open to correction. If your ideas are better than mine, convince me. If you're right, I stand corrected. If you're wrong, I still want you to keep stabbing forward. I encourage experimentation, tinkering, and always improving. As far as social status, I've never been envious of those from that arena. I just don't care. I look like Shaggy Rogers if that says anything. I can afford a much nicer car than I drive, but I don't care. Ditto my clothes. It's point A-B for me. I'd rather my children have better clothes, nicer treats, and time spent together. I have zero tolerance for social snobbery, as it shows an air of superiority that is not real. If you (metaphorically) think you're better than me, let's see how things go when the power is out, the food stops being delivered, and your apps don't work. Me? I would thrive in this world should it happen. When the zombies are coming, you'll be running to my house.

stirfrykitty 8y ago

You make great points, and thank you for responding with zero perceived animosity, a rarity these days. Personally, I'm not insecure. I grew up military, and served for 8 years. I'm you're atypical alpha male. I have will and intent in spades, but I care deeply for other people. Let me explain... My time in the Corps taught me that we are all equal, no matter our origins. I don't play favorites, be it education, time in position, man/woman, it doesn't matter. I believe in earned merit. Full stop. I treat everyone with dignity and respect, but merit is earned and demonstrated. I don't yell at juniors, I lead from the front. There is nothing I will not do for a teammate who tries their best. I tell my teammates even now, please, make mistakes. It's healthy. If you bork a production server, and you did your best, but made mistakes, we'll fix it together. You learn, and I'll learn along with you, because maybe I could have done something better, like documentation, or settings. Good leaders are open to correction. If your ideas are better than mine, convince me. If you're right, I stand corrected. If you're wrong, I still want you to keep stabbing forward. I encourage experimentation, tinkering, and always improving. As far as social status, I've never been envious of those from that arena. I just don't care. I look like Shaggy Rogers if that says anything. I can afford a much nicer car than I drive, but I don't care. Ditto my clothes. It's point A-B for me. I'd rather my children have better clothes, nicer treats, and time spent together. I have zero tolerance for social snobbery, as it shows an air of superiority that is not real. If you (metaphorically) think you're better than me, let's see how things go when the power is out, the food stops being delivered, and your apps don't work. Me? I would thrive in this world should it happen. When the zombies are coming, you'll be running to my house.