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I'm really curious... (I'm a sadist, but only with consent and permanent injury is a hard nope) did you try electricity? I've played with several folks with hi

I'm really curious... (I'm a sadist, but only with consent and permanent injury is a hard nope) did you try electricity? I've played with several folks with high pain tolerance, and electroplay really seems to "cut through" everybody's defenses. But it's not obvious how that would go, if the neurological signals are getting blocked...

lohszvu 8y ago
Why do you get off on hurting people?
- orthecreedence 8y ago
  I'm guessing the same reason people get off on, say, looking at big asses (or feet). Why does anybody get off on anything besides regular, biological, strictly-procreational sex?
- domnonymous 8y ago
  Honestly? The thing I like the most about sex is the noises my partner makes. And what's the best sound somebody can make during sex? Screaming, of course. Turns out, making people scream (when they want to be screaming) is all that really does it for me: sex is wet and sticky and gross and I kinda hate it. On either end of the paddle, though; I think it's all about the endorphins?
DoofusOfDeath 8y ago
Slightly OT, but since it's rare to talk with a self-identified sadist: Do you think you'd experience the same thrill torturing(?) a masochist as you would a non-masochist?
- domnonymous 8y ago
  > Do you think you'd experience the same thrill torturing(?) a masochist as you would a non-masochist? Oh my god, no, absolutely not. It makes me sick to even think of doing that shit to somebody who doesn't want it. Nevermind the legal consequences, I couldn't live with myself.
Chris_Chambers 8y ago
A wild insane person appears.
ryanmarsh 8y ago
She wanted to. By then I was tired of all the games. Not my thing.
- domnonymous 8y ago
  Fair, fair. Serious talk, that sounds traumatizing. I've heard some similar stories from folks who did things for their partners, who didn't enjoy the things they were doing. It's weird because you feel like you're the responsible one; you're in control, holding the belt or whatever! But you're not really in control. You're the one pushing your boundaries, inexperienced and barely-willing, and probably completely unprepared. I have a lot of sympathy for you, and it's okay to be upset. If these memories are still painful, I'd heartily recommend talking to a professional. As for people in her position: go to fetlife, get in touch with your local community, and find somebody who (a) knows what they're doing and won't damage you, and (b) gives free, prior and informed consent. Don't just demand/convince your vanilla partner to try shit out -- that's neither free nor informed; and if your demands escalate in-scene, then it's not prior.
  - projektir 8y ago
    I can't imagine how people would discover they may be into these things if the only way to have contact with it would be through the scene.

lohszvu 8y ago

Why do you get off on hurting people?

orthecreedence 8y ago
I'm guessing the same reason people get off on, say, looking at big asses (or feet). Why does anybody get off on anything besides regular, biological, strictly-procreational sex?
domnonymous 8y ago
Honestly? The thing I like the most about sex is the noises my partner makes. And what's the best sound somebody can make during sex? Screaming, of course. Turns out, making people scream (when they want to be screaming) is all that really does it for me: sex is wet and sticky and gross and I kinda hate it. On either end of the paddle, though; I think it's all about the endorphins?

DoofusOfDeath 8y ago

Slightly OT, but since it's rare to talk with a self-identified sadist: Do you think you'd experience the same thrill torturing(?) a masochist as you would a non-masochist?

domnonymous 8y ago
> Do you think you'd experience the same thrill torturing(?) a masochist as you would a non-masochist? Oh my god, no, absolutely not. It makes me sick to even think of doing that shit to somebody who doesn't want it. Nevermind the legal consequences, I couldn't live with myself.

Chris_Chambers 8y ago

A wild insane person appears.

ryanmarsh 8y ago

She wanted to. By then I was tired of all the games. Not my thing.

domnonymous 8y ago
Fair, fair. Serious talk, that sounds traumatizing. I've heard some similar stories from folks who did things for their partners, who didn't enjoy the things they were doing. It's weird because you feel like you're the responsible one; you're in control, holding the belt or whatever! But you're not really in control. You're the one pushing your boundaries, inexperienced and barely-willing, and probably completely unprepared. I have a lot of sympathy for you, and it's okay to be upset. If these memories are still painful, I'd heartily recommend talking to a professional. As for people in her position: go to fetlife, get in touch with your local community, and find somebody who (a) knows what they're doing and won't damage you, and (b) gives free, prior and informed consent. Don't just demand/convince your vanilla partner to try shit out -- that's neither free nor informed; and if your demands escalate in-scene, then it's not prior.
- projektir 8y ago
  I can't imagine how people would discover they may be into these things if the only way to have contact with it would be through the scene.