There's a whole spectrum between super rich and broke. In the middle of that spectrum we may still have to work for a living, but we have a job an we have savi

There's a whole spectrum between super rich and broke. In the middle of that spectrum we may still have to work for a living, but we have a job an we have savings and if we need to pass up several offers from toxic and/or doomed companies then thats totally OK. That's not arrogant, that's experienced. We have seen the failure modes of management and business models, and want to do a little due diligence before we make a significant investment of time and energy. It's way better to burn a few hours in interviews and even get rejected occasionally for "arrogance" than to jump ship from a decent job to a quagmire. Not that we're accusing you of being a quagmire, but we gotta kick the tires and pop the hood. We've all heard the trope about how costly one bad hire can be. I'd argue that it's much more true in the other direction. Imagine moving from a 40 hour a week job in a clean codebase with good coworkers and management to a dumpster fire where everyone's working 80 hour weeks and the company is loosing money and goes bankrupt 6 months after you get hired. Not a such a big problem in SF, but say you moved your wife and kids to some medium sized city for this job, bought a house there, and the local job market is mediocre. Now you've go serious problems, all because you didn't spend 10 minutes asking "hard" questions.