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While this looks very nice and fun to read, in the real world we deal with very emotional people. There are times I use these subconsciously when needed but I k

While this looks very nice and fun to read, in the real world we deal with very emotional people. There are times I use these subconsciously when needed but I know there are many clients I dealt with would reject me the moment I start talking like this. I personally find people using NVC tactics very insincere. It is very obvious they are using some "you can't use this sentence against me later" tactics.

marshray 8y ago
Sometimes what people really want is old-fashioned give-and-take, or to engage you in open conflict. When you make it clear by your actions you're not interested in that game, it will throw them off balance. Not many people are prepared for this and the only tactic they know is to escalate. "You're being an insincere prick" is all they've got. The key is that you know that you, yourself are sincerely open to making a connection, and you go the extra mile to avoid condescension. At a basic level, you are indeed pushing them to confront something about their own feelings that they'd rather not deal with at that moment. Sometimes folks just don't want to connect with you when they're feeling vulnerable, and the best you can do is let them know that you're safe to be vulnerable around by respecting that.