>For one thing, am I wrong to assume that relatives don't actually appreciate the son in law being the man of the family? OP is the son-in-law. The man who ha

>For one thing, am I wrong to assume that relatives don't actually appreciate the son in law being the man of the family? OP is the son-in-law. The man who has power of attorney over OP's father-in-law is the son. Unless I am misunderstanding your post. It would absolutely be an odd mistake to make if wrong though.