If this is the background, then your failure with your brother in law was probably inevitable, but trying was important for maintaining and improving your relat

If this is the background, then your failure with your brother in law was probably inevitable, but trying was important for maintaining and improving your relationship with the rest of the family. If you had just said, "forget it, it won't work," and not tried, the outcome for your wife would be the same, but everyone else would also be mad that you didn't try.