I don’t think your definition of passive aggressive matches with mine. None of those engagements read as even slightly passive aggressive to me. Passive aggres

I don’t think your definition of passive aggressive matches with mine. None of those engagements read as even slightly passive aggressive to me. Passive aggression is about saying one thing, but doing something that doesn’t match your words. All of these examples are about stating what you perceive as facts, then stating what you’d like to go differently. I think many people use “passive aggressive” to mean “you said something in a way/tone/phrasing that irritated me”, and by that definition, I can imagine anyone getting annoyed by any of these: the recipient is being put in an uncomfortable position. But being put in an uncomfortable position is the whole point, here; the situation demands it. I’m very receptive to the idea that NVC has an emotional tone that frustrates people, but I think it’s very inaccurate to call it passive aggressive.