Self-harm in the sense that is causes you pain, but it is really just not doing what others want even though you know that they will hurt you. It is intellectua

Self-harm in the sense that is causes you pain, but it is really just not doing what others want even though you know that they will hurt you. It is intellectually dishonest to to portray people not doing something that they don't REALLY want to do as an issue with their brains and leave out the brains causing the harm. Not self-harm, just not protecting the self.