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Educating people is awesome, amazing, and should be applauded. It must, however, come from the side of the mentee, not the mentor. If you _want_ to teach someo
by BossingAround 8y ago
Educating people is awesome, amazing, and should be applauded.
It must, however, come from the side of the mentee, not the mentor. If you _want_ to teach someone something, that will always come off bad, from my experience. As a junior dev, I used to hate this slightly senior dev (same position, but has been with the company a year longer) trying to teach me stuff, and saying things like "yea, do this, at least you'll learn how to do it", assigning me useless little things that I did not need in my daily work. In the end, I had to tell him that he's in no position to assign me anything, and I had to talk to my manager about this colleague thinking he can assign me things (practically, I said 'this has to end or I'm out). Things got significantly better after that.
- BossingAround 8y agoI really wish people would explain their downvotes... I also wonder whether 'I disagree' warrants a downvote.
- erulabs 8y agoI mean, you basically said, to an audience of senior developers who are here to share their knowledge: "I used to hate this slightly senior dev [for] trying to teach me stuff" Why do _you_ think you're being downvoted?
- BossingAround 8y agoWhat I said was I said was I used to hate a dev on practically in the same boat acting extremely condescending to me. That's a huge difference. If this has become the standard of HN discussions, I'm really sad. Fuck... This has angered me much more than I thought it would have. But ok, rather than thinking "huh, I wonder whether I came off as condescending to my less experienced colleagues", let's enjoy the mindless downvote and feeling of justification in one's old ways. In the end, that's what matters; no introspection, just confirmation.
- erulabs 8y agoBecause it's not owed to you to not be condescended to. If someone more experienced takes their time to teach you something, you should learn. If you don't want to learn, fine. But complaining that you weren't spoon-fed carefully enough is to not realize there are millions going hungry. How many people out there are _desperate_ for a mentor, even a condescending one?